I’m in a valley this week, friends. I’m burnt out. I’m tired. I want a nap. And because I’m feeling pretty low tonight I’m not sure I will be able to provide a positive message or offer uplifting words or share a parenting revelation at the end of this post.
I just spent all day cleaning up my house. Like, CLEANED. Every room got worked on. Every one! Let me get an amen from all those mamas that know what I’m saying. I dont think people know how rare it is for that laundry room to get a deep cleaning/organizing. It’s like an urban legend in the mom world. And after it all, after all that work, I’m still unsatisfied with what I did. I mean, I must be insane or hate myself or something. Who looks at a perfectly nice, just cleaned house and thinks to themselves, “I should of done more. I should have been better”.
I attribute it to the “Mom Guilt” factor. You are in a perpetual state of guilt. Either for ignoring the chores and spending time with your family instead, or for ignoring your family and getting to those chores. It’s guilt from being tired after a long day of work and not wanting to make dinner. It’s the guilt you feel when you miss your friends’ events and then the guilt when you leave your baby with a babysitter so you can have that movie night with your girlfriends. You’re always doing the most but feel like you’ve done nothing.
For the most part I live with this guilt pretty well. I prioritize the best I can and push things off for tomorrow. I stick the thing I didn’t do in a closet in my brain. I hide it under the bed. And most of the time I’m fine. But other times, like tonight, it’s like that closet just burst open and all those things I threw in there are tumbling down all around me.
To be perfectly honest I’m not sure what I’m to do with this mess. Remember I said I wouldn’t have any revelations at the beginning? Because I don’t know what to do. The best I can do right now is to sing Carrie Underwood’s “Jesus Take the Wheel”.
Maybe here’s the message to take away if anyone else has ever felt like me. At the end of the day when you lay your head on your pillow and go through that infinite mental list of things to do, try to think of this one thing- I am enough.
Because I am enough. I did enough and I’m trying my best. And the rest will get done. Or not. It’s fine.